When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was a bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it’s over, I don’t want to wonder if I have
made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.

~ Mary Oliver ~

How do you navigate change and endings?
Do you stay in relationships longer than you should?
Do you allow yourself to have conscious goodbyes?
What is your relationship to loss?
How different might you be if you discovered you have 1 year to live?
What insights do near death experiences provide and do they alleviate the fear?
Is the fear of death also the fear of life?
Who or what dies?

Join us this Friday at 10:00 am pacific as we END our stay with Voice America.

As an old Italian proverb puts it:
“Little children, headache; Big children, heartache.”

Continuing the rich and juicy conversation of Parenting from last week, we will move into the interesting and provocative stages of adolescence and teens. As much as we watch to see what our children will do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we’ll do with ours. We can’t tell our child to reach for the sun unless we are willing to reach for it ourselves.

He Said, She Said is a call in counseling show ;an invitation and a dare to dive into the juiciest and most vulnerable parts of our lives.

Every Friday 10-11 am pacific time
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It may be that the feeling of needing another kind of child to love visits all of us as parents from time to time, when things feel particularly challenging. But if we go deeper we may find that, after all, we can know and love well the children who are ours to love. Parenting is clearly a life’s work, and it is for life that we undertake it. As we all know down to our bones, there is no question about doing a perfect job, or always “getting it right.” It seems more a quest than a question of anything. What is important is that we be authentic, and that we honor our children and ourselves as best we can, and that our intention be to, at the very least, do no harm.

What are your parenting traps?

Looking for people to call into our Internet Radio show,
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Our intention is to provide a forum where you, our listeners, share your stories and struggles, and consider alternate perspectives that may offer insight and healing.

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Some of us call it anxiety; others call it worry; and then there are those who won’t call it anything at all. And yet, if we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that we live out our lives on an ocean of fear. Whether this angst comes to us as fear of death, abandonment, illness, insomnia, or losing our livelihood, it is a universal experience. Or, perhaps we may have fears of failure or success, fears of letting other people down or about the fate of the earth. Regardless, once under the spell, navigating this realm can feel like being in a small boat alone on the stormy sea. What we often fail to see is that each difficult and turbulent wave comes as an offering to help open our eyes and our hearts.

How is fear a factor for you?

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When a farmer uses a kind of fertilizer that does not have any effect, he has to change the soil. The same is true for us.

We have to change the way we tend to the rich soil that is our Anger. At the moment we become angry, our anger plays its own games. It makes us believe that another person is the cause of our pain. And, most of us tend to blame that person for our suffering.

However, your anger is like a frightened baby – distressed and crying. This baby needs a courageous mother to attune to him. You are that mother for your baby, for your anger. And if you begin to get curious about your own fury, you can begin to see that it is often driven by fear.

We are very rarely told to move closer to the anger, to the fear – to just be there, to become familiar with it. The advice we usually get is to smooth it over, to take a pill, to distract ourselves, or that we’re entitled to it; but by all means make it go away.

The next time you encounter anger and fear, consider yourself lucky. This is where the seeds of courage comes in, the courage to move beyond blame and toward curiosity.

What games does your Anger play?

Join my husband, Jonathan and I on He Said, She Said, a call-in counseling show this Friday from 10:00 – 11:00 am pt on VoiceAmerica.com. http://http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2075/he-said-she-said

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