How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were?
What does it mean to age gracefully?
At what length will you go to try and look younger?
Does botox mask and cut us off from our emotions?
What is the cost of our youth obsessed culture?
Is your body your sacred temple?
Does getting older have to mean ill health?
How prominent is Ageism in our culture?
Does meaning and purpose change your perception of aging?
What impact does a spiritual practice have on getting older?
Do you have any positive role models for aging?
What does it mean to become a wise elder?
At what point does surrender and acceptance enter in?
The wrinkles don’t lie. Aging changes everyone!
Join us on He Said, She Said this Friday, June 22nd at 10:am pacific as we contemplate the inevitable…
http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2075/he-said-she-said
Carrie, I am enjoying your wisdom, knowledge, humility and questions.
Aging and what it means to each of us is so different. I was always beautiful and for me aging means being ugly. Period. Please read Survival of the Prettiest if you haven’t. In my own book I offer lots of advice and platitudes on internal beauty and I hope although I have used botox and fillers, that I still have compassion and expression not only on my face but in my heart. It is still my face since I have chosen excellent practioners who agree on keeping me looking rested, youthful and fresh but not young. Maybe one day being beautiful on the inside will be enough for me, but as long as the men I date are obssesed with youth (recently a man I am dating told me that he thinks I am great in everyway, but in general only dates women in their forties, although he is 61) I will continue to do all I can to look youthful. It is an exprensive proposition and I admit it is one of my priorities. Today I am 68 (please go to youtube or my website, lindanacif.com) and hope to have a “soft” facelift when I am 70. I rarely receive complements on my intelligence, kindness, conscious living or heartfelt actions…it has always been about my beauty. I am very aware it is a diminishing resource, but plan on being as attractive as I can when I am 90. A friend of mine told me it is worse in Hungary, where older women have been known to commit suicide when they are old. Thank you for the conversations on He Said She Said and most of all, thank you for being Vivi’s guide, teacher, mentor and friend. And yes, if we judge the way she has gone through her own transitions, I doubt if she will follow in her mother’s footsteps. I am so proud of her and am thrilled to be a part of her life. If you would like to talk more about aging or beauty, I would love to share my thoughts, fears and insights with you.
One thing you didn’t touch on is sex, which has become more important and less personal with time. Since I don’t know if this response is public or not, we will leave it at that.
With love,
Vivi’s Mom